Welp, the moment I desperately wanted so badly finally came. Five and a half years after my twin flame “runner” ghosted me, he sent me a follow request on Instagram. (!)
When I first learned about twin flames, I consumed so many success stories and articles from twin flame experts to find answers to “When will my twin flame come back?”. I thought How long would I actually have to wait?! I don’t want to wait forever but I am in love with him and I believe he will come back, so I can be resilient.. The consensus was that everyone’s relationship was different and sometimes twin flames never reunited. I was prepared to wait as long as I needed to.
If you stumbled across this article, I’m guessing you’re in the same boat as I was years ago!
I’m here to finally share that in my case, it took a whopping five and a half years. And guess what? I’m 100% over my “twin flame” and I actually don’t believe in twin flames anymore! (Read more about that here.)
Part of me couldn’t believe that he came back into my life, and another part of me was rolling my eyes because deep down I knew this day would come. I even had a thought a couple weeks ago that he might try to come back into my life once I’m married or in a serious relationship. But honestly, over the past year, he rarely crossed my mind and I definitely don’t view him as a romantic prospect anymore.
I won’t lie though, my heart raced when I got that notification! It wasn’t an “oh my goodness, I’m so excited” kind of racing. It was more of an “oh no, this is crazy and unwanted” kind of racing.
For three painful years, my “twin flame” was my #1 obsession in life. I was incomplete and broken. He’s why I got out of bed in the morning. I deeply believed I would marry him. I tried everything to “accelerate the reunion”. I meditated, manifested, and practiced self love. Yet, nothing worked.
A big reason why I held on for three years was because I believed he would come back. I hoped that my twin flame “runner” would eventually “wake up to the truth” and return into my life. And not only would he return into my life, but he would also be more prepared for a relationship with me and most of his [spiritual] wounds would be healed. That’s what most stories online led me to believe, and I truly believed it with all my soul. It was extremely motivating for me. So much so that I held on for three years..
One day, I decided to try to move on and it was a HUGE turning point in my life. Since then, I’ve grown so much. I met guys who made me feel loved. I developed a relationship with God and became a follower of Christ. I rediscovered who I am and what I like. I realized how broken and lacking my relationship with my “twin flame” was. I am now completely at peace with my life and I know what I deserve. My life is so beautiful, even though I am still single. It’s been two full years since I moved on, and I wish I did it sooner!
So, did I accept his Instagram follow request? My immediate gut reaction was “no”, even though I naturally had some curiosity. But then I decided to be firm and not accept the invite. It just didn’t feel right. Plus, if he was in love with me, I would expect him to send me a meaningful text or something else more grand. If he does that one day, I’m unsure if I would want to engage with him though. It would depend on his message and if I feel called to give him a chance.
Funny enough, I went to check on his invite request the next day, and it was gone! So he either did it by accident or felt silly when I didn’t accept and retracted his invite.
The last couple of days have been interesting because I’ve naturally been thinking about my time with him. I’ve been reminiscing on the good times, but I’m mainly thankful that I moved on. If I was still waiting for him, that would have been two more years of misery and stagnancy. I wouldn’t have experienced much of what I experienced, and I would be majorly stuck in the past. Additionally, if this is the moment I was waiting for, I would have been severely disappointed! Just an Instagram invite.. Really? I deserve so much more!
And yes, he might try to enter back into my life in a bigger way in the future, but I don’t really welcome it. I wish him well and I pray for him to have a life filled with health, happiness, peace, and love. I just don’t feel like he’s best suited for me. I want something different now.
Here are 6 main things I’ve learned since moving on from my “twin flame”:
- I can’t control the outcome of my life.
- I have to trust that my life will unfold in the best way possible for me.
- It’s not healthy to live in the past or future.
- I deserve so much more in a relationship.
- If he [twin flame] wanted to, he would.
- I have to give everything to God and trust in Him.
I’m so proud of who I’ve become. I feel so much peace about my life. The main difference is that I’m grounded in God and more focused on the present, rather than the past or future. And I know what I truly deserve. Yes, I still want a romantic relationship. It’s my main desire in life. But I have to trust in God that my desires will be fulfilled, and I have to live my life, not worrying about how things will unfold. My relationship with God is #1, and I know He wants the best for me. I’m not worried about finding a husband and the timing of it all. I trust in the Lord.
If you believe you’re in a “twin flame” situation, I pray for you. It is so painful when you love someone and you want things to go back to the way they were. But I urge you to move on and live your life. Don’t wait around for years like I did. Push yourself to meet other people, live in the present moment, stay grounded, be yourself (or find yourself), and seek God (if you feel called to).
Life is too short to put your life on pause for a fantasy. Yes, your “twin flame” might come back in the future, but you don’t know when that’ll happen and you don’t want to miss out on your life. Time doesn’t stop for anyone.
I didn’t know my life could be this beautiful. I’m so glad I moved on from my “twin flame” two years ago. I hope you do the same! I know this is hard but I hope you’ll consider my advice. I wish you the best!
Feel free to send me an email if you want advice about your specific situation.
Much light and love! XOXO!
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