It’s one thing to see his initials on a license plate. It’s another thing to constantly see his name everywhere. Maybe you’re scrolling through Instagram and you randomly see his name, or you drive somewhere you’ve never been before and see his first or last name on a street sign.
It just seems way too coincidental. He has to be your soulmate, right?
I was no stranger to this. When I liked someone, I desperately looked for signs to verify he was my future husband. It can be so addicting, as signs can give such a confidence boost! (“Yay, he must be the one!! I’m not going crazy!”)
What does it actually mean?
- You like him
- You’re hoping he’s your soulmate
- Nothing more
I know you were hoping I would say “You’re 100% meant to be! All the signs only point to one thing: a future with this man!”
I used to believe this, but trust me when I say it’s not true.
The reason why you keep seeing his name everywhere is because he’s on your mind. Of course you’re going to notice. Not only are you just randomly noticing his name, you’re probably actively looking.
Here’s an example from my life:
I recently dated someone and his name was a very common name. Like, top 5 guy names. Before I met him, I never noticed his name anywhere. But when we were dating, I started seeing his name everywhere! I saw his initials everywhere, too! I got so excited each time. I told myself “It’s a sign from God! I’m so excited I finally found my husband!” It helped to get that external confirmation, especially in the early stages of dating.
But.. after our fourth date, he broke it off, and about a week later, I knew he definitely wasn’t the one for me. Once my rose-colored glasses were off, I realized there were some major reasons why we wouldn’t work out long-term. I’m so glad he dumped me!
Weirdly enough, I still see his initials and name often. But instead of a warm, fuzzy feeling, I just quickly move on. Seeing his name doesn’t mean I have a future with him. Of course I’m going to think of him when I see his name. It would be strange if I saw his name and he didn’t cross my mind at all.
Another recent example:
Over a year ago, a guy I was dating ended things after two dates. His breakup left the door open for us to possibly reconnect in the future. (He said liked me, but he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Sigh.) Anyway, I saw his initials on license plates ALL THE TIME. It was insane! I always shrugged it off. No secret meaning. Not a big deal. He wasn’t coming back and we weren’t meant to be.
Then, a couple months ago, we reconnected on a dating app. I was like, “Ahhh! Finally! It makes sense why I kept seeing his initials! Maybe he’s the one!” I was on an emotional high. After exchanging a few text messages, he ghosted me. Then a few weeks passed, and I decided to fully move on. I realized I deserve better. I know there’s someone out there who’s a better match for me anyway.
See, signs aren’t guaranteed to give you the outcome you want. Just because you keep seeing his name, it doesn’t mean anything.
I used to believe in “signs from the Universe”, but I don’t anymore. The two experiences I shared made it very clear to me that signs will never predict the future.
They can actually be more hurtful than helpful. They create a rollercoaster of emotions that’s led by an imagination gone wild.
The only thing you can be certain of when you keep seeing his name everywhere is that you must like him. Otherwise, you wouldn’t think too much of it.
What to do when you keep seeing his name everywhere:
- Take it as a sign that you like him
- Don’t assume he’s your soulmate
- Conduct serious discernment about him
- Take it to God
Now that I’m deeper in my faith with God, I realize how important it is to have discernment about men. Discernment means having clear judgment. For example, do you actually see a long-lasting future with him, or do you mostly just find him attractive and like the attention he gives you?
If I used discernment every time I liked a guy, I would have been on much fewer dates and I wouldn’t have wasted so much of my time daydreaming about crushes.
Additionally, whenever you get constant signs, it’s important to take them back to God. Because they could very well be from Satan–trying to keep you in old patterns, preventing you from finding your spouse. You have to be careful! If you keep noticing a guy’s name everywhere and you’re convinced he’s the one, pray about it and give it to God.
I hope this is helpful. It’s probably not what you wanted to hear, but I want to provide a realistic perspective from my experience. You deserve to be with a man who will treat you right. Someone who’s “all in” from the beginning. Someone who loves your flaws. Someone you’ll never second guess.
Much light and love! XOXO!
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