If a guy ends things with you, it’s time to rejoice! (Trust me.)
I know how devastating it is to be broken up with. One moment you’re planning the wedding in your head and the next moment it’s over.
Every time a guy broke it off with me, I would spend days:
- Crying
- Staying in bed as long as I possibly could
- Wondering if something was wrong with me
- Debating if I could have done something differently
- Trying to come up with the perfect text that might change his mind
Sound familiar? Maybe you’re going through the same thing.
But now, I have a completely different perspective: I would love it if a guy broke up with me!
Why? I don’t want to waste my time with someone who’s not my husband, and if he made up his mind that I’m not his wife, I will gladly move on!
If he was on the fence or if he didn’t want to risk losing you forever, he wouldn’t break up with you. Simple as that.
Unfortunately, you just don’t check all of his boxes. (interests, personality, goals, looks, etc.) He might check all of your boxes, but that doesn’t matter; you should want all of his boxes to be checked, too!
You should want someone who is confident about his feelings for you and someone who sees a future with you.
There’s a saying “Rejection is God’s protection” or even “Rejection is redirection.” We’ve likely heard these at some point in our life, but when we’re faced with rejection, it’s so hard to remember that rejection is a good thing!
Rejection just means that you’re one step closer to something that’s better for you.
The reason I felt called to write about this topic is because I ran into one of my exes the other day and he told me he was married. (!!) We went on a few dates in college and he was so into me. I broke it off because I wasn’t feeling a romantic connection with him. I knew in my heart there was someone else out there for me. Learning he was married made me feel so joyful! I’m sure he was heartbroken when I ended things with him, but he eventually found someone who was a better fit.
It made me think of all the guys who broke things off with me and how heartbroken I was for days, months, or even years, in some cases. And every time, it was a huge blessing! I can’t imagine being with any of them, yet I was so convinced I was going to marry each of them when we were dating.
If you’ve just been broken up with, definitely take the time to heal and reset, but I especially hope you realize that you deserve more. It might seem like nobody could ever replace your ex, but God has someone else for you—someone who’s an even better match for you. Trust in God and trust in the process. Your future will be more beautiful than you can imagine. Choose to be happy now.
Much light and love! XOXO!
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